Through a Wife’s Eyes: Time
One year ago today Gary and I were heading home from L.A., neither of us sure we were going to make it. We had such a magical, yet stressful time in Los Angeles. Thinking about it now it seems like it was so long ago. When we arrived in Duluth we headed straight to SMDC and Gary started his month long stay. Has it really been a year?
Someone asked me about that trip today and it brought back so many memories. The show. The people we met – Gilles, Cheryl and their families. Tony Dovolani. John Chavez from ABC. The nurses and doctors at Cedars-Sinai. Everyone was so nice to us. For a long time this trip made Gary smile. Even though he was so sick, this was a memory he cherished. I still do. Of course I am still watching Dancing with the Stars, and I miss my dance partner. Ben and I still cheer on Cheryl… and Gilles has been on the ABC show Brothers & Sisters. (another show that Gary and I enjoyed watching together.) It may be silly but they will always have a special place in my heart for what they did for Gary and I. I am still amazed that our co-workers and friends gave us that trip.
It has been 7 months since Gary died. How can that be? Time continues to go by but it feels like it was yesterday that Gary was here with us. I talk to him and about him all the time. Sometimes I wonder if people get tired of hearing me say, “Gary did this,” or “Gary liked this.”
He is with me, in my heart… and that is what is important. We talk about him to keep the memories alive. And, talking about him makes us smile.
It makes me smile, too. In fact I was just talking to a neighbor, yesterday, about your trip. Your co-workers must all be wonderful people, to have made that possible for you and Gary. We will be with Marcia and Melvin next week, in the Dells. We’re taking Mom with us. We are blessed to have her going with us. I am voting for Cheryl again this year. Keep smiling and give Ben a hug for us. Love you, Twila and George
I too remember that it has been a year ago. You boarded the plane to go to California on May 2, my birthday. Just seeing you getting on the plane was a wonderful birthday gift. The memories will always be with us. Just thinking about your co-workers making that possible will be something else that I will remember.
That was the only Dancing With the Stars show I watched
It was so cool to see the both of you – all dressed up and elegant – thoroughly enjoying every minite. I didn’t know Gary was feeling so sick until you posted after coming home!
Meomories = immotality, Sue – everyone who knew Gary wants to hear about him – it helps him live on in everyone’s hearts
He who has gone, so we but cherish his memory, abides with us, more potent, nay, more present than the living man. ~Antoine de Saint-Exupery
Love,
Bobbie
Sue and Ben, I wish I was closer so I could hear the stories of Gary did this. I was just looking at some photos and saw a couple from your trip to DWTS. As I watch some of the show I wonder if they think of you and Gary. So many people cross their path but some how I think you two remain in a corner of their hearts.
God Bless you and Ben and all the family. Love Aunt Pat
Hi Sue, We continue to be hooked on DWTS and Brothers and Sisters. We were glad to read your recent posts. We think about you and Ben all the time. Hugs to you and Ben. Love, Jack , Joanne, and Grandma